We must learn to use our emotions without having them use us. Observe your feelings, don’t become them. Emotions check the balance of your being in its present state. We must learn to use our emotions to test the frequency of the thoughts and actions we are experiencing.
It is your perception that is happening to you. Your interpretation of physical reality is the only thing that can actually happen to you in your life. When you express LOVE/HATE, both are first expressed within your SELF before they are passed on to others. You are the first to receive the effects of the thoughts and actions that you express towards others.
Think only those thoughts that you truly want for yourself. It is not what you say actually comes back to you; it is what you say has never left you.